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2014-04-08 06:42 pm
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Gah!

So, I have an offer for the school in Maryland. I loved the community when I went and interviewed and I liked the area itself very much. Aside from no easy proximity to skiing and farther from family than I would like, it is pretty darn awesome.

Interviewed yesterday at another school...one literally ten minutes from my mother in Connecticut. Interview did not go as well as the other, but it was still strong. They have one more candidate and the director asked me not to take a job until chatting with her. So, I think I am in contention.

If the CT job had housing (I REALLY hit it out of the park with the residential life director, so I have a shot), I lean to it....a bit less change for my family. But, I believe I would be happy with the MD job.

The MD offer was made via email and we have time scheduled to chat tomorrow AM to go over specifics. I want to try to put off the decision until after I know about the CT job. Help! Advice!

Bottom line? I am in a good position. Tim has given full support either way. I am proud of myself. Several years back, I set the goal of attaining a position like this, and here I am. I feel like I just played a high-stakes chess game over several years.

The crazy thing? Part of me is hesitating on saying yes. It's not the job. I think I will do well in either. It's just the change. I mean. Moving from NH, a state I LOVE to another region is huge. It is big change for my family, and, the logistics. Sweet mother of Jesus, the logistics. But, I do this. Big change comes, and I get nervous because of the change. I will get past it.....it's just BIG, you know?

The kids have helped me to be firm that I will make a change. They have really been missing me this travel season, and it is starting to rip my heart out. I need to be with them more...that is certain. These jobs will practically double my salary, keep me home 75% more, and bring me great satisfaction [I believe]. Really, it's a no-brainer to do it. But, it's a leap, and scary, at the same time.

So, yeah. Argh!!

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2012-02-03 10:34 pm
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Keeping you all in my thoughts.

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2012-02-03 10:31 pm
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I am so glad he was OK. Last Disney trip I witnessed a mom looking for a child who had wandered. We all frantically looked and I thought I was going to have a heart attack. All was OK after ten minutes, but the mom was so freaked, she could not stop vomiting. That fear is visceral, man.

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2012-02-02 10:57 pm
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Our school had a policy. I support it. I think it can lead to a conflict of interest, lead to favoritism, or some negative feelings. I think it opens a whole can of worms, so I support the policy.

The teachers often babysat AFTER the families were done with the school, and many babysat for other families. They never lacked for side work if they needed it.

Local colleges are good sources for babysitters, and I have heard some good things about care.com and sittercity.com. I am going to investigate one of those this summer...we need a few back-ups to my sister.

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2012-01-14 12:49 pm
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You can tell me I am awful, but I just won't care....

So, I was supposed to do interviews for Cornell all day, but they had too many volunteers and told me last night they would not need me today. To and Aidan ski on Saturdays and my sister was already set to watch Owen for the afternoon. You can see where this is going, right.

I kept the plan as is and I am enjoying a lazy afternoon. Alone.

I started off by using a Groupon at a used bookstore. Bought 'American Psycho' and 'Sarah's Key.'
Browsed at Marshalls.
Just finished a lovely lunch of salad and chili at Panera....and I snagged a comfy chair by the fire.
Going to read for a bit right here.
Then, off to browse at TJ Maxx.
May, just may, stop in at Coldstone Creamery. Maybe.
Then, who knows.





At 4:00 I have to hit the grocery store and head home, but for now? Loving the solitude.....with only the tiniest bit of guilt.

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2012-01-06 11:46 pm
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My son, the news geek

So, tomorrow I am going to the Republican debate and Sunday I am going to the taping of This Week with George Stephanopolous. Aidan heard that, and he found out I likely get to meet George Stephanopolous, and he asked me if he could write a letter to Charles Gibson and maybe Diane Sawyer or George Stephanopolous could give it to Charles Gibson.

Now, while I am fairly certain I will have a chance to meet at least one, I have NK expectation I can pass off a letter, but I will try.

I just read it and it is so cute!

Dear Mr. Gibson,

I really liked it when you we on World News Tonight. You did a really good job reporting the news. I learned a lot from you about what was happening all around the world.

My name is Aidan Major and I am six and a half years old. I am writing this note to you because I really like you. I hope you are doing very well in life. I miss seeing you every day.

Sincerely,
Aidan Major

I have a copy of it and will put it in his memory box...I think it is a keeper. I have a photo of him writing it for my Frame a Day, too!

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2012-01-01 08:43 am
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Amazing how different this year feels

January 1, 2011 I was feeling sad and Mopey. I was not looking forward to returning to work, I was feeling a bit trapped in my life, and even though I have wonderful family and friends, I was feeling pretty lonely. I was in a major, major funk.

Fast forward to January 1, 2012 and I feel like a new person. Obviously, to all who read my entries, I love my new job and actually look forward to going back. I feel like my career future is full of potential, and it is SO wonderful. I have truly accepted that I will not, likely, have a job that brings me monetary reward or "wow, that's cool!" points, but finally, at 38, I get and accept that what is truly important is doing something that maximizes your skills and brings you some happiness. When it comes time to advise my boys on this topic, I feel I can be truly authentic....and nit judge them for their choices.

Other than that, though, I just feel like I am in a good place in my life. I can drop a few pounds, but I am healthy. My kids drive me bonkers sometimes, but they are happy, healthy, and bright (and I THINK I am finally OK with only having two....and I know how fortunate I am to be able to make that choice.) My salary cut hurt, but it didn't impact our day-to-day living...it just means we don't splurge, and I am not even thinking about a vacation. It's been ten years and Tim and I still have never taken a honeymoon, but, well, I would rather invest any bonus money we get. And, bottom line, we are nit living paycheck-to-paycheck, not by far. We are lucky. I could certainly add to the friendships I have, but I feel far less lonely than I did last year. I reinvigorated some friendships in my life and I started some new ones. And, Tim and I are in a good place. I think us both being satisfied with work is key to that....I didn't realize how critical career satisfaction is to so many other aspects of life. We will continue to build our relationship, but I am good with where things are.

This year, instead of bring wistful about what my life is not, I am content with what it is, and I know I have the power to make it even better.

With that in mind, I am nit making resolutions, but I do have some goals in mind for 2012. I want to read more and plug in less. I want to continue to build my professional network to facilitate the next job search. I want to continue to nurture the friendships in my life and I will host at least one social gathering at our house each month. I need that. I have been doing well with eating well and feeling fitter, and I want to continue that. If I can drop another size this year, well, bonus. I want to be more patient with my kids and my husband. I want to purge much of the stuff in our house....we have too much. I want to actually complete the Frame a Day project this year.

I fi accomplish all of this, fantastic, if I don't, whatever. I just need to keep reminding myself that even small positive changes in my life can make a big difference, so I will keep working towards them.

Ok, enough rambling. I need to go play with Owen. Last night was low-key but nice. We ordered pizza and let the boys eat in the living room while we all watched part of The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe. We had a mini celebration of the New Year before bed- funny hats and horns,, throwing streamers, watching video of last year's ball drop, and having a ginger ale toast. After the kids went to bed, Tim and I sat by the fire with the Christmas tree lights on, and split a bottle of champagne while we talked and had some "couple time." it wasn't a bad way to celebrate. Now, Tim and Aidan are at Aidan's ski race, and Owen is watching PBS Kids while I sip coffee and type. He's still wearing his New Year crown....and he wants to wear it to the grocery store when we go. Fine by me....I just hope he doesn't expect me to wear my New Year tiara like I am now.....

OK, novel. Sorry! I truly wish nothing but the best for you in 2012. I hope that there are far more laughs than there are tears. And, when the tears come, as they inevitably do, I wish for you the comfort and support of loved ones to get you through, and the clarity with which to find some positive message within.....because even in the saddest of times, I know it is there. Happy New Year!

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2011-12-28 11:08 am
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Christmas

Can I just tell you how much I am enjoying this break? I am sleeping in, reading, and just enjoying time with the family. Tim has been at the ski hill slot with Aidan for practice, so I have been having 1:1 time with Owen. This morning, Tim took both boys to the hill, so I have been puttering around, drinking coffee, watching TV, reading, doing some errands. Nice.

For the first time I can remember, I am feeling truly relaxed on vacation. I am nit thinking about what awaits back at work, and even though I am loving the break, I am even looking forward to going back to work. It is truly amazing what the right job can do for you.

Christmas was nice. All of our traditions were enjoyed by all....some good memories. I think I nailed it with gifts, and I promised my mother the annual photo book would be a birthday (January) gift, since a computer virus wrecked the chances of it being a Christmas present.

I love him, but, once again, Tim was a lame-o with gifts. He got me five bags of BJ's sized chocolates, wrapped them, and slapped the kids' names on them. OK. Awesome. The thing that is killing me is that he keeps wanting me to agree that he did really well. Yah. Not. I mean, thumbs up on choosing Lindt and Ghirardelli, but really? Honestly, though, this year, I am not overly bothered by it. It's him. He is the world's worst gift-giver. I am not going to change him. And, I admit, I put pretty minimal thought into his gifts. He got some new socks, a set of Canada DVDs, and some sports things. Pretty lame. I did not have the time to really get creative, and I don't feel too bad about it. Is that awful?

Anyway, having a nice week, and really looking forward to what 2012 may bring. No plans for New Years...will likely be quiet.

Oh, and in fun news, I get to work the NH Republican Primary debate on the 7th. The college I work for hosts a few debates during primary season, and they needed volunteers. Not sure what my role will be, but it may be being. Runner for one of the press teams or the candidates. Should be fun. And, George Stephanopolous is shooting This Week on campus the day after, and I have a ticket. Fun! Of course, I will not be voting in the primary, being a Democrat and all, but, hey, still fun.

OK, back to my book. Happy Holidays, everyone!

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2011-12-11 11:54 pm

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Travel season is over, but reading season is just as busy! I aim to read 15-20 applications a day, in addition to working on sub-projects and dealing with phones, messages, etc. Still loving it 100%. I have gotten fabulous feedback from my dean. She gave me a glowing endorsement the other day during our 1:1. She told me that all the reports she has gotten from my performance on the road has been extremely positive, that my reading of applcation is dead-on accurate, that I have the perfect instincts for this job, and that she has even asked the veterans in the office to look at my read sheet notes....she thinks they are ideal. She told me that she has no doubt that within two years I will have all the skills necessary to be a director wherever I want.

After waiting so long to get a position in this field, it was so incredibly validating to hear. I know I sound like a broken record, but work never feels like work. it is absolutely one of the best feeings in the world.

Aside from work, Christmas prep has been going non-stop. I feel pretty good about where things are, with the exception of the annual photo book. I have photos downloaded but have not started the book. I will get it done in the next couple of days, but it will be rough. C'est la vie.

I feel good about the gifts I got folks, but, for the first time, I really did not put much thought in for Tim. I got some basic things, but I just didn't have the energy to try to get really creative. I'm not losing too much sleep over that, though. I think the gift I am most looking forward to seeing be opened is the necklace I got for my sister. I got her a silver necklace with two silver bars as pendants. Aidan's name and birthstone are on one bar, and Owen's on the othe. She has done so much to help with the boys, I felt it would be appropriate. It was more than I thought I would spend, but it will be worth it. I reined it in a bit more wiht the boys this year, but not entirely. I just can't help it.....

I had such a blast last night, guys! It was Tim's company holiday party last night. It was at the World Trade Center in Boston - cocktails, dinner, a band, a DJ, and a pretty elaborate casino night. So.much.fun. I had the perfect dress....LBD with tired ruffles that was PERFECT. It made me look SO much skinnier than I am, and Tim could not help commenting on it. I also scooped up a great pair of Tahari dress heels at TJ Maxx. They were so dead on for the dress. Blck satin peep toes with a great ruffle right across the toe. A little higher (4") than I normally go, but still comfortable. It was chilly, so I wore fishnets with it. It all looked so dead-on right. Tim and I had a great time together, but we also spent time with one of his colleagues and his wife....my first time meeting them, and we all just clickd. Tim and Michelle (the wife) are craps players, so they spent an hour at one of the craps tables while Tim's colleague and I won big at the blackjack table. We all laughed so much....and it didn't hurt that we found extra drink tickets. Anyway, it was nice to click with Michelle and we will get together after the holidays.

OK, must hide the Elf, run the dishwasher, dry my hair, and hit the hay. Hoping I wake up with my voice back....I have been sick the last week and this morning, I totally lost my voice. That should be fun tomorrow when I have to answer phones...
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2009-11-18 09:24 pm

ROAK Holiday Exchange

[info]11_11_bride has volunteered to coordinate the ROAK gift exchange this year. Check out her (public) post with details:

Holiday RAOK '09

For those of you who haven't participated before, the RAOK (random act of kindness) is a simple "secret Santa" gift exchange and it's a lot of fun. You'll be assigned one of your LJ friends to surprise with one larger gift or a couple of smaller gifts during the holiday season. That friend posts a photo of their present in their journal when they receive it and then at the end of the holidays, everyone reveals who sent gifts to whom.

Please repost in your journal so that others who may be interested can participate!
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2009-01-12 10:41 pm

More Golden Globes

They had to walk around together all night to achieve this color-coordinated look.


Gee, Paris, could you look a littl emore bored?


I am posting this only to say I really dislike Vanessa Hudgens.


Amy Pehler looks awesome for being so close to having had the baby.


Sarah Chalke has a new hair stylist - Stevie Nicks.  She looks HORRIBLE.


Hey, goat, say hi to your ma for me.


Cameron Diaz just looks like a zombie.


Laura Dern was very retro, and I thought very cute.


I like this photo just because of Aaron Eckhart.


Sigh.  I love him.


The blue belt just makes the outfit, huh?


Is there a cat trying to escape from Melissa George's dress?


Can anyone explain why these guys are considered hot?


I love Johnny, I really do, but I wish he would fully pull himself together once in a while.


If I looked as bad as Mickey Rourke did, I would try to hide, too.


"I wonder if I can smoke this thing?!?"



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2007-09-26 10:31 pm
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Am I selfish?

I have been pretty darn silent here because of work.  I accepted the new job in April, but because my replacement does not start until November, I am, truly, doing two full time jobs.  I go non-stop at work.  More than once  week I get home and realize I have not eaten all day because I just don't stop.  And, after the respite ot dinner/bed/bath, I do work until 11:00 PM.

The next two weeks are going to be rough...I have a number of BIG projects all due.  I am dealing, but just barely.  

Tim has been amazing.  He has taken over a lot of Aidan care to free up some of my evening time, and he has been really understanding of my need to just focus on work at home.  I adore him for this, among other reasons.  I have felt guilty about 'neglecting' him, so Sunday night, I finished my work "early" at 10:15 and I opened a bottle of champagne and told Tim it was "his" time.  We sat in bed, drank the bottle and just talked (for a time, anyway).  Pretty pathetic that I fit that time in late on a Sunday night!

Part of me has felt like quitting, but I really do need my job, and, I like the "new" work I do...and despite the craziness, I have made some big accomplishments.  Once my next three big deadlines are met, I WILL be demanding a bonus, though.  I am not getting extra for all the work I have been doing, and they need to pay up.

But, the selfish part.....In mid-October, the worst will be over and I will finally be able to breathe a bit.  All I can think of is some quiet time, so I am booking a day and a half at the Common Man Inn and Spa in Plymouth, NH.  It's cheaper than some of the other local places and is near so many good friends.  I am going to spend a night BY MYSELF, and get a massage and a facial, and spend some time with some girlfriends.  I need that.  Desperately.  Tim is encouragng me to go...he is A-OK with it, but I still feel a bit guilty....I shoudl spend my down time with Tim and Aidan, right?  I just need to recharge my batteries, and, pathetic as it is, I am really focusing on some "me time."

So, once again, I offer apologies for not being more actvely involved in all of your lives....I hope we can reconnect soon.

(total side note....I am watching Dirty Sexy Money and loving it.  I heart season premiers time! I can not WAIT for The Office tomorrow!!!!!)

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2007-01-29 09:57 pm
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SAG Awards

OK, OK, I never finished the Globes fashion review, and I probably won't finish the SAG one, but I can try, right?!?

Well, I definitely like the Golden Globes dress better than this one, but I still think Jennifer Hudson looked pretty.  The dress was a leeeeetle tight, but, meh, it was still nice overall.


Eddie Murphy looks nice, but, man, is his girlfriend's dress horrible or what?!?  It's like Morticia Adams meets Anna Nicole Smith meets ZumZum designer what with the shiny satin and all....


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2007-01-26 08:30 am
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it's been forever....

There has just been no time to post in the last week with all the work drama going on.  As my boss transitions out, there are SO many changes.  I have been increasingly open about my desire tor new opportunities/dissatisfaction with the current environment, etc.  At a point, I felt as though I was going to be pushed out when I turned down a substantial promotion.  BUT, I have been able to put forth some strategic proposals to change my position here, moving my job into an arena that more closely matches my skill set, allows me to help with leadership transitions, and keeps me at a solid salary level.  It would not be in Admissions--I may put that on hold for a couple of years, but I think this could lead to a situation with some greater happiness for me here.  As cliche as this sounds, it could be a win-win.  In the last few days, my new boss and the head of School have told me that they will do whateer it takes to keep me here, and I am going to try to use that leverage.  I am beginning to feel a little of the tension that has been in my belly ease up.  Only a little.

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2006-12-18 09:35 pm
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A moment of satisfaction

A co-worker gave birth about a month ago.  In her earlier stages of pregnancy, she debated whether or not she wanted to breastfeed.  I spent a lot fo time talking to her about the benefits, gave her some good books, and encouraged her to take the breastfeeding class at the local hospital (the one where I gave birth).  By the end of her pregnancy, she was gung-ho to breastfeed, and, when she left on maternity, I armed her with my number and a vow to be there to help.

Well, her birth was a rough one, and her daughter swallowed a few mouthfuls of amniotic fluid on the way out, causing respiratory problems.  She ended up at the special care hospital up north for a week after birth.  I was so afraid that she was going to have trouble starting or maintaining the breastfeeding relationship.  I left a couple of messages for her, encouraging her, but I had not heard back.  Well, I saw her this afternoon at our office holiday party, and, she excitedly told me that she is having a great time breastfeeding.  She was able to pump early on, and she dealt with a big problem--her daughter needed to be fed via IV and had a pacifier and had to learn to swallow.  She worked with a LC to teach her daughter to latch and swallow, and after a lot of hard work, had success.  She pumped and fed her daughter with a syringe, drop by drop to help keep her thriving--and she is already two pounds up from her birth weight, about 3 1/2 weeks later!

My co-worker told me that when she was having a hard time, she just kept remembering how encouraging I was, and kept saying she heard me telling her she could do it.  I feel so satisfied that I have been able to be a part of a mother's determination to keep breastfeeding!  Honestly?  One of the best gifts I could have received this holiday.

(oh, and I pulled #1 in the Yankee Swap today, meaning I got BEST pick of the loot....first time ever.  Yeah, baby!)
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2006-11-09 11:12 pm

Stooooopid ER....

....for making me cry.

Seriously.  How could someone hurt a child enough to prompt split personalities for self-preservation?

I think I just need to stop watching TV altogether.  Everything makes me think about Aidan being hurt and I lose it.  Dude, am I going to be like this for the rest of my life now that I am a mother?

In other news....hooray for Massachusetts legislators for voting NOT to put the gay marriage ammendment on the floor.  With all the states out there moving towards ammendments, it's nice to see MA holding firm and affirming the decision of the MA courts.  For me, gay marriage has become the litmus test for candidates.  I don't care if s/he is Democrat or Republican....if I know a candidate is pro-ban, I can't vote for him/her....even if I am 100% in favor of all his/her other stances.  

And, big surprise, but, yeah, elections were a joy this year....now, Democrats better put forth some positive change or the 2008 presidential elections aren't going to be as rosy as some may think.

Holy shit.  I just saw that Ed Bradley died.  I loved him.  He was my favorite part of 60 Minutes, well, after Andy Rooney.  So incredibly sad....

Ok.  Random post.  I think it's the charonnay speaking....

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2006-09-16 10:35 pm

Bravo, Spain. Bravo.

I know, I know.  It's possible that some of these models are just naturally thin and may have a below-normal BMI just because.  I know.  BUT, I still applaud Spain for going this route....

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060916/ap_en_ot/spain_skinny_models_4

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2006-08-28 02:59 pm

To be continued

OK, Aidan is up.  I will finish the review tonight....
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2006-04-27 09:11 am

Aw man......

I knew Tim was cooking up something good for a birthday present for me (it's next week), and I so did not want to find out.

But I did.

He really did well.....he knows that the one concert I have always wanted to go to but have not yet is Madonna. So, he got us tickets for the July show in Boston! I am incredibly excited and proud of him for nailing the b-day present, but, man, why did I have to find out?

I am home from work today to do chores and prep for Aidan's birthday party and I was paying bills. What was the first charge on the credit card that caught my eye? TM Madonna. Well, clearly, I know what that is! I am not going to let on at all, because he would be crushed.

It's funny, because we were on the same wavelength with presents....Tim's birthday was Monday and I got us tickets to see George Carlin in Hampton and we will stay overnight in Portsmouth. We were both thinking entertainment as a theme. Guess we both know we need some quality date nights!