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I have been pretty darn silent here because of work.  I accepted the new job in April, but because my replacement does not start until November, I am, truly, doing two full time jobs.  I go non-stop at work.  More than once  week I get home and realize I have not eaten all day because I just don't stop.  And, after the respite ot dinner/bed/bath, I do work until 11:00 PM.

The next two weeks are going to be rough...I have a number of BIG projects all due.  I am dealing, but just barely.  

Tim has been amazing.  He has taken over a lot of Aidan care to free up some of my evening time, and he has been really understanding of my need to just focus on work at home.  I adore him for this, among other reasons.  I have felt guilty about 'neglecting' him, so Sunday night, I finished my work "early" at 10:15 and I opened a bottle of champagne and told Tim it was "his" time.  We sat in bed, drank the bottle and just talked (for a time, anyway).  Pretty pathetic that I fit that time in late on a Sunday night!

Part of me has felt like quitting, but I really do need my job, and, I like the "new" work I do...and despite the craziness, I have made some big accomplishments.  Once my next three big deadlines are met, I WILL be demanding a bonus, though.  I am not getting extra for all the work I have been doing, and they need to pay up.

But, the selfish part.....In mid-October, the worst will be over and I will finally be able to breathe a bit.  All I can think of is some quiet time, so I am booking a day and a half at the Common Man Inn and Spa in Plymouth, NH.  It's cheaper than some of the other local places and is near so many good friends.  I am going to spend a night BY MYSELF, and get a massage and a facial, and spend some time with some girlfriends.  I need that.  Desperately.  Tim is encouragng me to go...he is A-OK with it, but I still feel a bit guilty....I shoudl spend my down time with Tim and Aidan, right?  I just need to recharge my batteries, and, pathetic as it is, I am really focusing on some "me time."

So, once again, I offer apologies for not being more actvely involved in all of your lives....I hope we can reconnect soon.

(total side note....I am watching Dirty Sexy Money and loving it.  I heart season premiers time! I can not WAIT for The Office tomorrow!!!!!)

Date: 2007-09-27 03:17 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Take "your time" - your husband is supportive and you deserve it. Wind down and then get back to your family, like you want to. Just think how good it will feel to be with your two favorite people while you are rested, recharged and relaxed. You deserve and need the alone time and it is totally necessary.

Date: 2007-09-27 12:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Thanks, Mer. I have always been someone who needs alone time and I feel like I have not had any in a long time. I don't feel like myself without it. In addition to the spa day I am going to take two more days off of work to relax at home and hopefully take care of some house projects--at my own pace!

Date: 2007-09-27 04:14 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
i don't think you are being selfish at all. you will be a better wife and mom after a day to yourself.

Date: 2007-09-27 12:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I hope so. I feel like Tim has gotten the shaft lately, and I feel pretty bad about that.

Date: 2007-09-27 01:07 pm (UTC)
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I don't think you're being selfish at all. I am a believer that you need to feel refreshed and 100% before you can give to others. It sounds like Time realizes that. Good for you for booking a getaway.

I tivo'd DSM, but haven't watched it yet. Also excited about Cane. And have been watching Kid Nation.

Date: 2007-09-27 01:27 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I haven't watched the other two...I think you will like DSM.

Glad others don't think I am being selfish!!

Date: 2007-09-27 02:45 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I don't think that's selfish at ALL. I can only imagine how much you'll need that for yourself. Enjoy it and I love the Common Man's mussels and bread. yummmm. I've been craving the Italian Farmhouse lately too.

Date: 2007-09-27 03:15 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I miss being able to go to those restaurants on a regular basis...

Date: 2007-09-27 04:11 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I understand your guilt! Shane does the bulk of Logan care during the week and I feel so guilty at the weekends when he gets up with Logan that I usually get up pretty early too rather than relaxing and sleeping-in.

However, I do think that the break and indulgence is well-earned. To ease your guilt and get your family time in, I would also make plans to have a family day or give Tim the day off soon.

Date: 2007-09-27 07:23 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
You are not being selfish at all. I think in order to be a good mommy and wife you need to have some re-charging time where you don't have to worry about anyone else but yourself. After you have your retreat, you will feel better, more energized and be a more attentive mommy and wife. We all need me time and when we start to lose ourselves in our work or family, that is the best time to take it.


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